Celebrate Your Natural State
By America’s Six Figure Real Estate Coach
Dr. Wayne Dyer reminds us that our natural state is joy. While it’s easy to get away from it, ignore it and even override it, ultimately, what we want and need as human beings is to be joyful. I recently spoke in Hawaii, and I was reminded of this life lesson. The spirit that seems to flow through the islands is one of joy, celebration, and authenticity. Cast against the rich landscape, it was truly an extraordinary experience.
Even their words resonate with a soulfulness and center. Words like…
Ohana. It means family and symbolizes that no matter how distantly related you are, every member of the family comes from the same root, and by that, all part of the same family. People there have a community ohana, a friend ohana, and even a work ohana. It’s a feeling of connectivity that is inspired and I imagine lends itself to supporting the absolute resiliency of these ‘families’.
Aloha. Usually we think of this word as a greeting or parting phrase but when you look at the definition in a Hawaiian dictionary or speak to people about this word it is so, so much more than that. It conjures up amazing spirits of warmth, love, friendship, joy, and celebration.
Pono. This word usually translates to righteousness, but when people speak of living pono it has the feeling of living consciously and making the right decisions to do the right things by people, by the earth, and even for yourself. There’s an integrity about the word that is admirable.
Mana. Mana means power, but not in the ‘I have a better car than you’ kind of way. It doesn’t equate to possessions or bank account balances. It refers to the life energy that flows through all things and that it can be gained or lost depending on the decisions and choices that are made in all that we do.
Shaka. You’ve probably seen the gesture of an extended pinky and thumb waved with a hang-ten coolness and spirit. It means gratitude, solidarity, and friendship. And it feels like a great reminder to slow down and go with the flow.
There’s a lot to be said for the joy and passion these words invoke and for the warmth and spirited culture they represent. I was grateful for my time there and can’t wait to get back for my next speaking engagement.
It’s fun to take life lessons from other languages, cultures, and countries. It reminds us that we all have things to share with the world around us, hopefully in positive, empowering ways. Maybe, just maybe, I even left a little of my ohana or roots behind myself!
I’d love to hear what you’ve learned from other cultures recently. Share it here or on my Facebook page! Until then – I wish you happy successes! Aloha!
Six Ways to Give Yourself a Break
By America’s Six Figure Real Estate Coach Roberta Ross
So many of us live in a 24/7, phones-at-our-fingertips, high-demand world MOST of the time. For some of us that may move closer to the ALL the time mark. Still there are others – those amazing others – who have figured it out, either by accident, intervention, or absolute choice that it’s impossible to be all things to all people all the time. The few have figured it out and have let go of trying. Aside from business people, we are human beings. And as such, we have to honor the fact that it’s all right to step out of the rat race, hopefully at LEAST once a day to take care of ourselves, our minds, hearts, spirit, bodies and our beings. That’s not selfish – it’s essential self-care.
When we don’t our stress levels rise and, over time, progressively rise higher. And so it goes. Our health, focus, and home life is affected. Our relationships get strained, productivity wanes and our resilience seeps away. But when we DO? When we take time out to honor ourselves, find a center, create a little balance, spring forth a little joy – whether that be once a day or a hundred times a day, all of those things that would have otherwise gone south – spring to new life. Our energy is fueled, burnout takes a backseat, and we lead more rewarding lives.
Let’s take a look at six ways you can give yourself a break and STILL be a rock star agent! I know, you’re busy. It’s worth it though. I promise.
- Commit to the time. Even if it’s 15 minutes per day, make it unabashedly, unapologetically yours. If you have to, take a look at everything that you’ve had on your plate for the last two weeks. Highlight everything that was ‘busy work’, fluff, can be delegated, or deleted. How much time does that add up to? Then rearrange your calendar for the next two weeks and claim that time right back for you. Don’t try to figure out the next year, just work on the next two weeks. The difference in how you feel and perform just might make all the difference.
- Turn things OFF. I’m as connected as the next person, but there really isn’t much earth shattering that will happen in your 15-20 minute sabbatical from the whirlwind that can’t be cared for upon your ‘return’ to the race. Turn off the phone, walk away from the desk, and unplug a little. It’s good for you brain – and your spirit. If you must – put someone else in charge of ‘emergency’ detail for that time and spend it stress free.
- Set off on the right foot. Start the day a little earlier than normal. Spend that first half hour or hour of your day in affirmation, gratitude, exercise, meditation – or a combo of all of those things. You’ll find your days more focused, with a whole lot more pep and a lot less stress.
- Say “No”. Oh boy, this is a tough one for a lot of folks. As salespeople, many tend to be ‘people-pleasers’ – and saying no is not exactly in the repertoire. It’s important though. If you are asked to do something that doesn’t resonate with you, bring you joy, bring you closer to your goals, or you just plain don’t want to do – then don’t do it. Say no. Spend that time more productively or peacefully and remember that we all only have 24 hours a day, and yours are just as valuable as everyone else’s. You get to choose how they are spent.
- Ask for help. It’s all right to need help – we all do every now and then. Delegate where you can and ask for help from your kids, your partner, your spouse. Get a babysitter. Hire someone to do paperwork. Give yourself the perspective that you are JUST one person and that often times the highest, best use of your time is spent on you and that’s it’s really all right to let go of the reins a little and let someone else take up some slack.
Bottom line? You’re worth it. Your health is worth it. Your mind, body, and spirit are worth it. And when you take the time to take care of yourself you inspire other people to give themselves permission to do the same. That’s a win-win-win for everyone. Have a great week!